do not load all child records for inverse case

currently `post.comments.find(Comment.first.id)` would load all
comments for the given post to set the inverse association.

This has a huge performance penalty. Because if post has 100k
records and all these 100k records would be loaded in memory
even though the comment id was supplied.

Fix is to use in-memory records only if loaded? is true. Otherwise
load the records using full sql.

Fixes #10509

1 files changed, 8 insertions, 0 deletions

diff --git a/activerecord/test/cases/associations/inverse_associations_test.rb b/activerecord/test/cases/associations/inverse_associations_test.rb
index b1f0be3204..993e7294cf 100644
--- a/activerecord/test/cases/associations/inverse_associations_test.rb
+++ b/activerecord/test/cases/associations/inverse_associations_test.rb
@@ -401,6 +401,14 @@ class InverseHasManyTests < ActiveRecord::TestCase
     assert_equal man.name, man.interests.find(interest.id).man.name, "The name of the man should match after the child name is changed"
   end
 
+  def test_find_on_child_instance_with_id_should_not_load_all_child_records
+    man = Man.create!
+    interest = Interest.create!(man: man)
+
+    man.interests.find(interest.id)
+    refute man.interests.loaded?
+  end
+
   def test_raise_record_not_found_error_when_invalid_ids_are_passed
     man = Man.create!